Children are always surprising their parents with what they know, and sometimes what they shouldn’t know. They are constantly learning new words and skills, and absorb the world around them rapidly with their curious minds. However, as smart as our kids may be, sometimes it may seem like your child is not listening or understanding what you have to say. It’s a frustrating problem, but the key lines in a few communication techniques. After All, children process things way differently than adults.
A child’s brain can easily become overwhelmed with information if you talk too fast and use too many words. Practice being more concise with your words and slow your speech down. This way, your child will have an easier time identifying exactly what is being said or asked of them. Although you want to shorten your sentences and leave out useless information, make sure to still be specific. What is obvious to an adult is not always obvious to a child. For example, when asking your child to clean up their toys, outline exactly how it should be done. Exaggerating and emphasizing your words can make yourself more clear. Making yourself understandable will eliminate having to repeat yourself over and over.
If there is a lot of background noise and distractions going, it makes it hard for your child to focus on you. The colorful shapes on the TV or the distant music from a radio might not bother you, but it automatically attracts a child’s attention, consequently making whatever you have to say less interesting to them. By eliminating as much outside stimulation as possible, your child will have a much easier time focusing on what’s being said.
What may be a simple concept to you, maybe something a child’s brain cannot even grasp yet. Abstract topics, such as time, do not always translate over correctly, therefore there will be a lack of understanding. Try to communicate with words and ideas that your child is comfortable with and will be able to create connections with. If you talk in their ‘language’ and relate to them, your child is much more likely to effectively understand you and respond.
Forming Good Communication Habits
Set a good example to your child about how to properly communicate with others. Practice eye contact, appropriate gestures, a loud and clear voice, or any other positive communication habits. Children pick up things quickly and will start to copy these skills, which will not only benefit communication between you and them, but also communication with others in the future.